I have been working on a book about how to live with the person you love.
I am divorced.
I’ll let you sit with that for a moment, the way my literary agent did.
In my defence, every good research team needs a control group. The co-authors of the book are Brian Page, a Certified Financial Therapist and home-labour specialist who has been happily married since 2002, and JR Havlan, who won 8 Emmys writing for The Daily Show. One of us knows the research. One of us knows the jokes. One of us is the “before” picture.
Why does an unfair split of the housework curdle into resentment? Should two full-time salaries mean a 50/50 split of the laundry, or is “fair” something weirder than maths? Does the person who earns more get more say in how it’s spent?
And my favourite: what’s the one household job your partner has no idea takes up half your brain? For years, I thought “the mental load” was just my ADHD with better PR. It turns out it’s a real thing; other people carry it, and some of them are married to us.
This Wednesday at 8pm ET, the 3 of us are doing a Substack Live about the book and answering your questions about cohabitation, which is to say a Substack Live about the questions couples actually fight about:
Come for the research. Stay to watch two experts workshop your relationship in real time.
‘til then
Your pal,
This should be interesting 😉😁
This sounds amazing and I love seeing Morris again resting peacefully RIP FOREVER